Thursday, December 29, 2011

Evangeline's Nursery

This past Friday, Kemi and I started working on the nursery.  It was even all his idea (which of course just made me have a crush on him even more).  We had to start by removing all the junk boxes of priceless memories before we could do any of the "fun" stuff.

This is what we started with, although I didn't take a "pre-junk" picture

We learned (ok, I learned. Kemi probably already knew) that for, like, .97 a piece at Home Depot you can replace all the "almond" colored outlets with fresh white ones, and new white outlet covers.

It's the little things, I tell you.  A little change, but I think it makes a big difference.

Kemi added a dimmer switch to the light switch in the nursery, for those late-night feedings.

We hung this old, gold chandelier I've had forever that Kemi has tried to throw out about 153 times and I've had to save from the Goodwill pile.  It's gone with me from house to house and I really wanted to use it in my baby's nursery one day.  I won that battle by a hair (Kemi wanted a ceiling fan), but once it was hung, Kemi ended up thinking it looked really cute.

We had bought a plain brown letter "E" from JoAnn's and wrapped it in aqua blue yarn.  Kemi hung it up on the wall, and it looks pretty cute!

And TODAY, a giant box came in the mail....
With this inside:
 I love it! I had seen this guy online and fell in love, and Kemi's sister Gozie was super generous and sent it for the baby.  So cute!
 He can watch over Evie as she sleeps!

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Working 9 to 5

This really had my attention this week.  Have you all seen it?

With baby Evangeline coming in May, it seems like I get asked pretty frequently what I'll be doing about work.  

I've known since I was young that marriage and family were my primary vocation.  I know that this is the path that will lead me to the greatest holiness and fulfillment in my life, and is very much God's plan for me.  I also believe that teaching is a very big part of who I am, and is part of my purpose and vocation.  I am not myself if I'm not putting to use my gifts, talents and interests.  When Kemi and I were married, we agreed to welcome children as a gift from God, and we dearly hoped we would be blessed with them.  I planned to continue to work once we started our family, without knowing exactly how that would work out.  With St. Dominic's being so new, I had no idea how my role would have shifted at the school once we started our family.

Now that Evie is on her way, I have a better idea of how things will work and how I can balance directing a school and being a wife and mom.  Luckily for me, I am self employed, and have the luxury of being able to "make the rules" so to speak, regarding children in our workplace.  So far, my plan is to turn my office into baby central, and have Kemi or our other caregivers spend the day in my office at the school with Evangeline while I am teaching.  This would give me the luxury of popping in and out, especially for nursing.  It will be a huge challenge for me to remain focused and give the same quality of work that I always have.

So will I feel guilty? Yes. I'm sure I will.  At least 1,367 times per day.  Are there benefits for our family? Yes. I wouldn't do it if I didn't believe that.  Most of my mom friends stay at home. In fact, of about 10 friends with kids, I can think of only one that works outside of the home, 40 hours per week.  And I know that my stay at home mom friends have guilt too. It comes with the mom-territory, I think.  Stay at home moms worry that they spend too much time cooking/cleaning/wiping noses and not enough quality time.  I know missing Evie rolling over/talking/sneezing for the first time will have me in hysterics.  But I think the things we will teach her by our example far outweigh the sacrifices.  Among the things we hope she learns from this family arrangement:

1. Kemi and I both have jobs in which we help people and offer ourselves to others.  We hope Evie learns that this is an important part of having a fulfilled life.
2. That women can be leaders/bosses/business owners. If that's where they're led.
3. That we cherish our time together.  With Kemi traveling 4 days a week and me working 60-70 hours per week, we make a concerted effort to have all homework, work-work, housework etc. done before our time together.  We never take each other for granted, and it will be the same way with our time with our girl.
4. That using your talents, being creative, and pursuing your ideas is fun and important.

Let the juggling act continue...

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

20 Weeks-A Cantaloupe!

We're 20 weeks along and they say the baby is the size of a cantaloupe, crown to rump.  Wow! This little girl is growing so big!  Baby girl now has working taste buds and is gulping down amniotic fluid like it's her job. Well done, daughter.

This week, I feel really good, pretty much the same as I always do.  I have more energy than I did a few weeks ago.  This is the first week that I am noticing needing a few more calories than I normally do.  I am definitely able to eat a bit more at each meal than usual.  I really don't mind it because I know it just means our girl is growing big and healthy.

A Merry Little Christmas

We've been REALLY trying to stay in shape around the Ndolo house, and fighting a new desire to not go to the gym. Ever.  We both very much want to remain healthy and fit people despite having children, since this seems to be the season in most people's lives that they forget their own needs while taking care of baby needs.  

So, after fighting our couch potato tendencies, we finally got in the car to head to the gym.  On the way there, I don't know what came over me (I blame the pregnancy hormones) but I just started crying. "It's almost Christmas and we haven't unpacked our decorations, gotten a tree, put lights on the house..." full-on sobbing about the lack of Christmas cheer around our house.  After drying my tears and lots of cuteness Kemi said "Tonight I'm in the best shape of my life. Let's go get a tree." Gosh I love that man.  We literally turned the car around and went to the tree lot.  Then home, where we made hot tea and put the lights on the house. And it looks awesome.  

Monday, December 12, 2011

Awkward and Awesome This Week


-Peeing a little every time I sneeze.  So weird. These are the things I didn't read about in "What To Expect When You're Expecting."
-Asking the doctor what the bump in the bottom of my uterus is and him telling me it's just a hernia. "Oh, just a hernia? Ok, no big deal then. I guess..."
-EVERYONE has started noticing the bump and rubbing my stomach. And now I understand what other moms mean when they talk about this. It is a mighty weird experience to be talking to someone and have them reach out and put their hand on your tummy. SO weird.
-Going to the gym without my wedding ring on, but WITH an obvious bun in the oven.  Dang, girl.


-Kemi walking around singing "My Girl" to himself.  Hint: he's not singing about me. And I love it.
-Kemi emailing me an article on handling toddler temper tantrums because he "wants to be prepared." I love this guy.
-Getting to borrow Citizen maternity jeans. Ahhh. The bump never looked better. And the funny thing is, these jeans are like "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Maternity Pants." I borrowed them from Melanie Pritchard, and apparently they've been worn by, like, ten other preggos. I love it.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Can't wait to see my girl...

I can't wait to spend time with my girl

Hang out with her, teach her, and just share our life with her.  Among the things I'm excited about:

Seeing Kemi with his daughter
Making forts (I am a mighty good fort builder)
Sharing with her all my favorite books
Taking her to school for the first time
Seeing her tiny, naked brown bum ( I know!)
Saying bedtime prayers

Can't wait can't wait can't wait!